The Clarity Library

I spent years experiencing things I didn't have words for. Now I'm learning the words, understanding the patterns, and discovering how emotional abuse and chronic stress can affect not only our minds, but our bodies too.

This is where I share personal and borrowed stories, hard-earned lessons, and what I'm learning about narcissistic abuse, the nervous system, emotional manipulation, and healing.

Finding the words for what happened helps us understand what we've been carrying which leads us on a path back to ourselves.

Personal Liberation

Piecing Together Narcissistic Abuse

There’s a truly sickening paradox in healing from narcissistic abuse. You want peace and you want all the questions answered.

4 days ago4 min read

Your Interior World: What it means to feel the need to cleanse your inner world after manipulation

Anybody remember how you used to have to rewind a cassette to hear your favorite song again? Or what about rewinding the same song over and over and over? I still do that but now it’s so much easier on Spotify. This song, these lyrics specifically "Sometimes I feel cold, even paralyzed. My interior world needs to sanitize" (The Hype by Twenty One Pilots) were on repeat for more than a year. They were hauntingly specific as if someone else wrote these words to explain my inner

4 days ago5 min read

Munnin: Why memory matters when you've been manipulated.

"Huginn and Muninn fly each day over the wide world. I fear for Huginn that he may not return, but I fear more for Muninn."— Grímnismál Every morning, Odin sends two ravens into the world. Huginn, whose name means Thought. And Muninn, whose name means Memory. At the end of each day they both return, bringing him news of everything they have seen and everything that has happened across the world while he waited. Most people assume Odin would fear losing Huginn (thought) most.

Aug 195 min read